INTRO: Parents usually try their best to treat their children equally and children tend to expect that. In this blog post, I will explore two primary questions that have come up time and time again in my practice, two questions that are worth your time to consider - Is equal always fair? How does equal work in the context of estate planning?
While giving to children equally is a common parental goal, it is impossible. Children have different needs, intellects, hobbies, educational goals, aspirations, etc. I have never encountered a parent with more than one child who keeps a ledger for each child from birth and insists upon strict equality in giving.
If one child plays baseball and another plays lacrosse, should the parents make an equalizing distribution to the child whose sport costs less? Most parents would answer, "of course not". Is the answer tougher if the parent pays tuition for one child who chooses to go to an expensive private college and pays tuition for another child who chooses to go to a community college? What if one child has extensive medical expenses or disabilities or one needs more support in launching into adulthood?
In the estate planning realm, these kinds of questions and even more difficult ones are frequently raised. The interesting and challenging part is that there are no universally right and wrong answers - just right and wrong ones (or better and worse ones) in the judgment of any given parent.
Below, I outline a few common situations that raise questions of equality and fairness, and describe some of the associated estate planning implications.
Loans to children. Suppose you make a loan to a child or you make loans to multiple children but in different amounts. How should a loan be treated upon the death of the parent? While there is no set answer, such loans should definitely be documented.
First, a promissory note should be prepared by an attorney and signed by the child borrower. Second, good records should be kept so that if the parent dies, the then-principal loan balance can be ascertained. Third, it may be helpful if the parent's Living Trust states specifically what is to happen with that loan receivable upon the parent's death. For starters, is the loan to be fully or partially repaid or is it to be forgiven?; and if it is to be forgiven, should the amount forgiven be charged against that child's share of the estate? Without adequate documentation, ambiguities arise and frequently lead to conflict, if not seriously damaged relationships, among the children.
PART TWO: Rob explains how an estate planning attorney can help aging parents evaluate the circumstances and navigate reasonable solutions when a child becomes a part-time or full-time caretaker in When Giving To Children, Is Equal Always Fair? - Part Two.
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